Often I hear “I don’t want to be JUST friends!” when I’m counseling couples. While I understand their sentiment, I often remind them that friends tend to have stronger and more sustainable relationships than couples who are not really friends, but just housemates, sex-mates, etc.
The couples I see succeed the most often are ones who really LIKE each other, like similar movies, books, hobbies etc., and like at least some of the same friends. Once the honeymoon ends, and it almost always does, the friendship you hopefully had in the beginning, takes hold. If that’s not in place or is not fed, the relationship often fails.
So if you’re looking to ad spark this Valentine’s Day, buy her or him something sexy, but also think of something fun your friend likes to do like bowling or sailing or rollerblading. It’s nice to have someone you can just relax with. Enjoy!
